It’s easier to give up on love than to risk getting hurt – right? But let’s get something clear: love itself doesn’t hurt… unhealed people do.
Love is one of the most freeing and healing experiences we get to have as humans. The challenge? Love flows between people – who all have flaws, baggage and past wounds.
This makes trusting your heart to another human being quite scary.
After heartbreak, it’s easy to decide love just isn’t worth it. I’ve been there. I told myself I’d never get married and convinced myself I was destined to be the cool single aunt who traveled the world (which woulda been amazing too, don’t get me wrong!).
But deep down, I still wanted a love that lasted.
Finding my husband meant changing the stories I told myself about love and people.
“Love is too complicated” became “love is easy and safe.”
“People will always hurt you” became “I attract people who treat me with respect.”
“Men today are the worst” became “I’m surrounded by healthy men.”
By shifting my mindset, I changed the way I saw the world – and the kind of love I let in.
Yes, hurt people hurt people. But, if you choose to believe it, there is another perfectly flawed person out there who wants to figure it all out with you.
