The holidays are supposed to be magical, right?? Then why are they often completely exhausting?
I don’t know about you, but there have been countless Christmas celebrations back home in Michigan where things did not go the way I envisioned. 🤪
And if we’re being real, between family gatherings, social obligations, work parties, and the pressure to be “festive,” it’s easy to lose yourself in the chaos.
Not to mention, if you’re healing from heartbreak or navigating difficult relationships, the holidays can feel even heavier. I know, because I’ve carried that weight myself.
In fact, 3 years ago I found myself laying in the guest bed at my dad’s apartment, crying my eyes out over a recent breakup with my (now) husband.
What was meant to be a time filled with creating memories with my family turned into a year where I was only half present and didn’t want to be there.
I see so many people push through this season on empty, saying yes to everything, showing up for everyone else, and completely neglecting themselves in the process.
Here’s what I want you to know instead: taking care of yourself during the holidays isn’t optional – it’s essential.
You can’t be present if you’re running on fumes. And you definitely can’t heal, grow, or build the life you want if you’re constantly putting yourself last.
Here are 5 simple ways to prioritize yourself this season, while STILL soaking up time with loved ones:
1. Schedule alone time (and protect it)
I’m not talking about finding time when you can. I’m talking about blocking off time on your calendar just like you would any other commitment. Maybe it’s a morning walk before anyone else is awake!
Whatever it is, treat it like the non-negotiable it is. Even 30 minutes to recharge can make a massive difference in how you show up for the rest of your day.
2. Say no without guilt
You don’t have to attend every part or play host if you’re not up for it. And to build on that – you also don’t have to explain yourself or justify your choices to anyone.
“I’m not available that day” is a complete sentence. So is “That doesn’t work for me this year.” Practice saying no without over-explaining.
The people who truly care about you will understand. And the people who don’t? That’s information you needed anyway. 😉
3. Move your body
When we’re stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed, we tend to either freeze or push through without dealing with what we’re feeling. Moving your body helps release all that tension you’re carrying.
This doesn’t have to mean an intense workout. Go for a walk, do some gentle yoga, dance around your kitchen to your favorite song. Whatever helps you reconnect with yourself and let go of the stress!
4. Limit alcohol (yes, even during the holidays)
I know it’s tempting to use alcohol to get through uncomfortable family dynamics or numb the pain you’re feeling from a breakup.
But the reality is that alcohol usually makes everything harder, not easier.
It disrupts your sleep, intensifies your emotions, and often leaves you feeling worse the next day. You don’t have to avoid it completely, but be intentional about how much you’re using it to cope versus actually enjoying it.
5. Check in with yourself daily
At some point every day, pause and ask yourself: What do I need right now?
Maybe you need to cry or call a friend. Actually give yourself what you need instead of pushing it aside and powering through.
Remember, the holidays will come and go, but your relationship with yourself is forever.
If you’re struggling to prioritize yourself or you’re realizing you’ve been running on empty for longer than just this season, I’m here. Sometimes the best gift you can give yourself is support from someone who gets it.
Fill out my coaching application HERE to see if I’m the right person to support you.
With love,
Kate
